Skip to content Skip to footer

Don’t Cry for Me Colorado: The Pain of Saying Good-bye

Our Three Kids: Jonathan, Hannah & David Jr.
Our Three Kids: Jonathan, Hannah & David Jr.

“Saying good-bye sucks,” is the title I considered using for this post. I didn’t want to offend anybody, so I didn’t use that title. I’m sure it would have gotten me more views, though. 😉 I hope it doesn’t offend you, and I apologize if it does.
My kids like to use the word, “suck.” In that way it seems appropriate, and it accurately describes how I felt when I had to say good-bye to Jonathan and Hannah two days ago. It felt like one of the most difficult, most painful things I’ve ever had to do.
My dad, who came out to Colorado Springs, so he could drive back to San Diego with our oldest son, David, reminded me that we went through a similar experience about 22 years ago when Dawn and I first left for the mission field.
There are many things I love about serving the Lord in missions, but saying good-bye to people I love is not one of them.
Jonathan & Hannah in Mexico City
Jonathan & Hannah in Mexico City

I think of all the wonderful times I’ve had with all three of my children, David, Jonathan and Hannah. I just love hanging around them, at least most of the time. 🙂 When my son, Jonathan worked at Safeway I enjoyed dropping in and seeing him. Even now when he’s at work with Wells Fargo, it’s fun to drop by and see his smiling face.
Hannah and I enjoyed going for coffee. When she was younger we would go on walks. It was a great deal of fun to watch her play volleyball, and to cheer her on.
Even though David, is close by as he goes to school at San Diego Christian College. We still feel some loss. He won’t be living with us any more. Since David’s the oldest I’ve always relied on him to help me get things done. He is very responsible and reliable.
One of the things I loved doing the most with my boys is playing and watching baseball. I coached David and Jon since they were little. Even now we are in a fantasy baseball league together. Almost every conversation includes something about baseball. Hannah was always a great fan. She was at almost every game cheering her big brothers on.
David & Jonathan at a Rockies Game
David & Jonathan at a Rockies Game

All these wonderful memories just come on like a flood, and I can’t contain my emotions.
I love my kids so much, and I’m going to miss them so dearly!
A friend recently shared with me that, “we give our children roots to give them wings.” Well, their wings are beginning to flap, and it’s painful to watch them fly away. I guess that’s why saying good-bye sucks, because I love my now grown children.
We made it to San Diego. I just dropped by dad off at the airport, and he is on his way back to Fresno.
The trip was exhausting, but it went well. The only added excitement was the bumper fell off on our car in the middle of the desert. It came off shortly after we stopped for gas about an hour outside of Las Vegas. Yes, it did offer some additional stress, and more opportunities to trust the Lord.
Dawn and I appreciate your prayers as we adjust to this new life without our kids in the home. Please pray as well that we can find a suitable home for our needs and ministry soon!
In His Grip, Dave


  • By dkzody
    Posted August 17, 2012 at 11:14 am

    Made me smile. Yes, been there, but with only one child, we only had that pain of separation once. Took me a year to adjust to not being the mom. I found other outlets for all my energy and emotions. That was 16 years ago. Now we have two grandchildren who are taking up much of our energy and emotions. Enjoy each moment of life. As I recently wrote on my blog, some day you’ll be 60. Or, now, as in my case, moving on towards 80.

    • By diasolifeontheborder
      Posted August 17, 2012 at 6:09 pm

      It’s a new stage in life. The Lord will give us the grace to get through it.

  • By Jimmie Waters
    Posted August 17, 2012 at 12:38 pm

    Dear Dave,
    Thanks for those words! You are absolutely right saying goodbye to those we love sucks! Especially our children.
    I am in Charleston, SC, as I brought Matthew, my oldest son, down here for college and I have been right there with you in the flood of emotions!! He’s my oldest son, a man after gods own heart, and like you and yours, I love just hanging out with him. I will miss him terribly and I am not looking forward to our goodbyes tomorrow!!
    I am glad that I am not the only one who hates goodbyes and will be missing my son so much it hurts.
    This is gods plan for him at this time and god has great things in store for him I’m sure, so I will continue to believe and trust and look forward to what our god will do in his life. I will be praying for you and Dawn and trusting god to do the same and more for you!!

    • By diasolifeontheborder
      Posted August 17, 2012 at 6:22 pm

      Even though it’s difficult to say good-bye I think those moments are important for you and your son. Hope it all goes well for you.

  • By lbkennett
    Posted August 17, 2012 at 6:09 pm

    This makes me think of “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brother and sisters – yes, even his own life – he cannot be my disciples.” Luke 14:26 NIV You are paying a price not many are willing to pay. May God bless you.

    • By diasolifeontheborder
      Posted August 17, 2012 at 6:24 pm

      There is a price to pay – some pay an even higher price, but it’s good to know that the Lord is in the middle of it.

      • By lbkennett
        Posted August 18, 2012 at 4:57 am

        “for my sake [you] will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life.” Mt 19:29

  • Trackback: Giving Thanks for 2012! « Our Life On The Border
  • Trackback: Growing Up With Our Children: It’s NOT for Wimps! « Our Life On The Border
  • Trackback: God’s Faithfulness to Our Family | Our Life On The Border
  • Trackback: God’s Blessing: The Arrival of Our Son, Jon! | Our Life On The Border

Comments are closed.

    Beyond Borders Life © 2024. All Rights Reserved.